In reply to "to lpc1998" by mirin
shamy - 11:53am May 17, 2001 SGT (188.8.131.52.1.2.1)
The true story of a breakup. To Ms [mirin] and [pc1998]
Hi Dear Ms[mirin] and [pc1998],
You're absolutely right.In a marital dispute,outsiders will never really get the true story of the breakup.They can only assume and in most cases,they are wrong.
The reasons for a breakdown in a marriage are multiple and sometimes very complex.Let me just outline some examples that are cited as causes for a breakup besides adultery and extra-marital adventures.
1.The way he squeezes the tooth-paste.The way he arranges the toilet paper.The pyjamas he wear.The snorings and restlessness at night.Insist on table lights being on.Must have the loud alarm clock on.Go to toilet at night several times.
2.Insist that the wife go full morty when in bed.Insist on sex even when she is inconvenient.Demand oral every time.Attempt unorthodox arobactics in bed.Always insist that she come every time.Yes or no ?Inconsiderate and uncouth.Hold wife in ransom because he is not her first lover.Treat wife like a sex slave.Compare wife with other women.Making love and fantasizing other glamorous women at the same time.
In fact,the majority of breakups are due to bad bed antics and sexual inconsiderations.And all these are manifested in behavioral incompatibilities which create cracks in a marriage.Unless the emotional bonding is strong,the marriage will break down sooner or later.
I agree with you [mirin] that the emotional scar,the emotional upheaval and that sense of betrayal cause more damage and hurt than anything else.It reinforces the need for all married couples to be more aware of each other and be more considerate and loving.
Thank you [pc1998] and [mirin] for your very helpful and fruitful inputs on staying happily married.God Bless.